I celebrated my birthday last Wednesday and my actual birthday turned into what most would deem a "Birth-Week." It was pleasantly action packed including sushi & ice cream, the Roger Waters Concert, dinner out with friends, many pints of hard cider, a beautiful spread given by The Man's mum & sister, 3 cakes, beautiful gifts, a solo-date down at Pike Place Market, flowers delivered to work, time in my garden, a 3 day weekend, staying in my pajamas a little longer with coffee, bacon, and strawberries for breakfast while I watched a movie, and lots of downtime to catch up on my reading and writing. I even bought a new bathing suit, a beautiful fuchsia hanging basket for our deck, and did some necessary cleaning. Yes, what an amazing birthday it was.
On another note, my shower seems to have become a "mni-think tank" where I conjure up my ideas about what to write about. I was thinking this morning about how I have become a bit more wise and if I had the opportunity to write to my younger self, what lessons would I include? Here they are...
You are young. You think you are invincible. You are vibrant and full of life. Don't lose that. It will get you far. Remember these lessons and carry them with you as you embark into the world.
Learn to rest. Enjoy the moments that are unfilled with things to do. There will always be things to do. A full inbox, to do lists, errands, paperwork, etc. Rest everyday, even for 5 minutes. It will do you and everybody else a world of good.
Know when to quit and let go. Yes, you were raised your entire life not to be a quitter and that is very admirable. The important thing is to follow that feeling you get in your gut. You know, that intuition thing? It is priceless and will lead you down some unexpected, yet amazing paths.
Mistakes are good. Perfection doesn't exist, neither do perfectionists. Life is messy. Work and love are even messier. Mistakes give us access to our soul and some unremarkable life lessons.
Find something you absolutely LOVE to do. Yoga. Drumming. Writing. Cooking. Hiking. Let your passion be your teacher because at the end of the day, passion keeps us waking up and craving more.
Don't be so rigid. Remember Gumby and how flexible he was? It's okay to have beliefs, values, goals but don't get so stuck on those things because sometimes when we hyperfocus, we can miss out on the really good stuff.
Read. Read. Read. Enough said.
Embrace your quirks...and your bitchiness. Life isn't all roses, fluffy bunnies, rainbows, and unicorns. Think of your personality as though it is warm creamy brie combined with sharp cheddar. The quirks make you, well, you. That's who you are.
Connect & Stay Present. Stay connected with family & friends. Remember your roots. Express gratitude. Call someone. Write a letter. Listen.
Last but not least, you are only as young as you feel. Embrace play, nourish the inner child. Treat yourself as though you are a curious 6 year old at the petting zoo for the first time. Live life in amazement. Each and every day.
Your 28 Year Old Self