Thursday, January 2, 2014

lessons and a fresh start

It's that beautiful and magical time of the new year and with it brings lots of reflection on the past and also lots of designing and structuring for the new. I love this time of year...not only am I usually visiting my folks in Maine as the snow collects and it's so cold outside that your nose hairs freeze instantly when you go outside, but I love wrapping up the year with egg nog in my coffee, lots of flannel, and trips to L.L. Bean, along with hugs, laughter, fireplaces, and cookies.

Looking back on 2013, so much comes to mind in all that was presented to me. I had some great things happen and also some challenges that brought me closer to my edge, that place where uncomfortable meets extreme, stellar growth. My top five lessons included...

1. Let resonance be the guide. Noticing how things feel in my body first guides me to my decision making. This is way more in line with my femininity and my guiding life principles.

2. Feel the fear and do it anyway. This was all about my yoga teacher training program that started in October. I applied with a whole bunch of will I manage it both time wise and financially? How will I measure up? Am I ready? Yep, it has all worked out beyond anything I could have imagined. I have not only deepened my own personal practices, but my yoga as a life practice has spilled over into the rest of my life.

3. Stop taking life/love/work so damn seriously. This included lots of laughter and dancing. Lots of spontaneous fun. Celebration, being grateful for the dish soap and toilet paper. I know that one of my values is laughter and fun and I have tried to bring my A game of this into all areas of my life.

4. Say yes, say no. Let the choice be a practice of self-care. It's so hard to try to fit everything in and trying to make everyone happy. So, I dumped that whole philosophy and instead, really looked at what I was taking on if I said yes to something. The Man and I made conscious decisions to have Friday nights in and Monday dinners at the table...this meant saying no to some things, but saying yes to our own partnership.

5. If I want something, I need to attack with Blissful Velocity. Blissful Velocity was my theme of 2013. It meant attacking my financial health, my physical healing from Lyme disease, and setting myself up for success in both these areas. I has to make some goals, create some non-negotiables, and cope ahead, a term The Man and I use for anticipating challenging events.

So, here we are, day #2 of 2014 and I have been taking some chunks of time in my mini-sabbatical in Maine to design and plot out what I want, but most importantly how I want to feel. My theme for this year is Graceful Alignment. It totally lights me up from the inside out. For me, it's about really getting in tune with wants and goals and then aligning with actions and decisions. The choices I make need to be totally parallel with how I want to feel.

Nourishment: Lots of physical well-being...continuing my ayurvedic practices, my daily meditation practice, more whole foods, less crap in the kitchen cupboards, and getting a 5k in before my 30th birthday. This also includes lots of white/empty calendar space.

Create. I have lots of ideas and projects in the pipeline, including launching some entrepreneurial endeavors that I have been working on. This also lines up with diving into my writing practice again, both as a craft and an artistic expression. I also desire to take some hip hop dance classes.

Engaged. This is all about the peeps in my life-family, friends, mentors, community, neighborhoods, etc. I really want to find that circle of women who speaks to me, values personal growth and self-study, and totally makes me laugh my ass off. In another sense, this is all about what I say yes to and no to...only participating if I really am a "hell yes!"

So, here I am. Ready. Combining both conscious intention and flexibility to my life. I have a few other juicy things like building up my savings account, maintaining my monthly massage appointment and quarterly visits to the naked lady spa, purging some serious stuff, and date nights with The Man.

It's been so good and I think the good will keep on giving.

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