This post is part of my "33 Lessons on Turning 33" in which I will be sharing 33 gems, insights, and pieces of witty wisdom over 11 posts.
Lesson #11: When you say yes, it should be a holy hell yes. I used to just say yes to everybody and everything. Every single opportunity that came my way felt like I had a deep obligation to say yes to it. When I was healing from Lyme, I had such limited energy reserves. I was forced to start saying no to commitments, invitations and requests. I took that lesson with me and it's one of the most valuable tools in my toolkit of self-care. Unless it's a holy hell yes, it's a no.
Lesson #12: Your house will never be in perfect shape to have people over. The Man and I live in a small space in Seattle city limits. Growing up, we both had larger houses and our parents loved to entertain and still do. We went through a phase where we just felt that our place was not able to accommodate people coming over and kept waiting and waiting for it to be in the best, most perfect shape. Not any more. Life is to short to delay spending time with the people you love. There will always be projects and a to do list, but I don't wait for things to be in perfect conditions anymore.